I can tell you about the day I met my first friend, first best friend that is like it was yesterday. It was 1991 and the first day of kindergarten, yep 22 years ago! I sat down in my seat in my class and to left, I’m pretty sure it was my left, was this little blonde hair, blue eyed girl. She said “hi” and introduced herself and asked me my name. That’s where our beautiful friendship began. We’ll call her “T”, since her name starts with a T. She was always a little more on top of things than me. Not so much ahead of her years, but just ahead of me. Even today, she’s been married for several years and has 3 or so kids. Unfortunately, after 5th grade with lost touch, until she invited me to her baby shower when we were 17 or 18. I was in high school, in my senior year, and well I don’t really know what she was doing.
Over the years we’d only talked here and there. I moved after 5th grade to a new neighborhood and school, and she moved in and out with a few family members. This is how we lost touch 🙁 The next thing I know the middle school years went by, only seeing each other, I think once, during that time. Then the high school years came and one day a voicemail was left from her asking for my address. She was calling to invite me to her baby shower. We were just 17/18, but I wasn’t surprised. Like I said she was always a little ahead of me with the life stuff. It was weird seeing her pregnant, we were the same age and had grown up together. Before that, the last time I’d seen “T” was when we were about 13 or 14. I remember precisely, because it was right before I got braces and I got them at the end of 7th grade. She’d invited me to a function at her church and her brother drove us. While I had fun, I had just gotten separators put in for my braces and my mouth hurt sooo bad. I was excited to see “T”, even if it was for her baby shower. I drove about 40 minutes out to her family’s house and attended. She was a really cute with her baby bump and otherwise looked just how I’d remembered from a few years before. I was excited for her, but couldn’t relate. That was the last time before about 2 years ago that I saw or heard from her.
We ended up reconnecting a couple of years back, because one of my other childhood friends told me she was on Facebook. I had tried a few times since Facebook had come out to find her, but was unsuccessful. My other friend told me she was married and had a different last name. I ended up searching through that friend’s friends list and requested her. When she approved my request, she sent me a message. We messaged back and forth catching up and it was really cool. I learned that she was married, had three kids, and is a god-fearing woman. We haven’t stayed in touch much, but we are friends on Facebook. Life took us in two completely separate directions, but I feel like God had us in each other’s lives when we needed to be. She seems to be doing awesome, has a great family, and be really happy. Even though we might not be “best-friends” anymore or have lost touch, I couldn’t wish better for her. I’m so happy that she’s happy, and the one thing we both have in common is that we are God-fearing and are strong in our faith. I guess now that I have a child, we have that in common too. Maybe one day we will reconnect, but if we don’t she will always and forever be my very first friend, best friend that is.