So I’m usually the oh-so informative blogger. While I do share some personal thoughts, I tend to lean more towards information giving versus seeking. However, I’m calling out to all moms out there now. It’s a shameful subject, a scary one, at times a sad one. Its: Mommy Guilt!
To be honest, I never even heard of “mommy guilt” until I join the mom club. I think the first time I ran across the term was at some point during my pregnancy. I told myself, “That’s never gonna be me.” I just knew I was gonna be that rockstar mom (and wife) who is able to pat her head and rub her belly all while cooking dinner, nursing a baby, and being a hot-smoking wife. Well, I’m here to tell you that I just can’t get it all done. Its been a harsh reality, because I’ve always been able to get it all done. Oftentimes, I feel like the second I take my focus off my son, that I’m taking something away from him. I feel like I should be engaging him non-stop ever waking hour that he’s awake. Unrealistic: Absolutely!
Its another one of those things that no one tells you about before you have children. Either that, or I’m completely irrational in my mothering. The slightest thing can trigger the mommy guilt. You leave the room for two seconds to grab a glass of water or use the bathroom, and they start to stir. Putting them down to sleep, walking away from the crib and you see their little faces already missing you. Sometimes its too much for me. They say you can’t spoil a baby, but I’m certain my son has me wrapped around his finger. Its so hard, I always feel torn with what to do. As a mother, I will always put my child first, but I’m sure a balance gets struck somewhere in all this.
Have you ever had “mommy guilt”? If so, how have you dealt with it?