Ever felt like you were just going through the motions? Like the world was happening around, but you weren’t in it? I often times feel that way myself. As a mom, wife, and small business owner I wear many hats and on a daily basis, I’m torn in many different directions. One minute I’m trying to wrangle in my rambunctious son, teaching and guiding him in the best way I know and the next I’m attempting to fill orders for my shop or respond to emails. It gets overwhelming, and the guilt soon comes into play.
I know we’ve all heard of mom guilt and know that it is very real! A lot of this “mom guilt” comes from not feeling completely present. I really hate the feeling I get not being able to really set aside my business happenings and completely focus on being a mom and wife. How do you draw the line? How do you try to put the time in to achieve your goals, all while keeping your priorities in balance. I think to myself, “Is it possible for my to be a business owner and creative, and be a good wife and mom?” I see so many other woman doing it and they seem to have it all under control and appear to be so successful.
If you’re thinking this way, much like me many times that’s your first mistake. The mistake we are making is comparing ourselves to others. Social media makes it even worst, because we see only a filtered version of these lady’s lives. Who really wants to post that time after your kid throws a tantrum, when you wanna pull your hair out, and your computer isn’t cooperating for whatever reason? No one! However these are the moments where I’m sure those woman don’t feel fully present either. It’s multi-tasking stretched to the absolute limits, which is the really want motherhood and being a wife is.
We are only present when we allow ourselves to be. Multi-tasking will never allow you to be fully present, because your focus is diverted from whatever your main task is. To be fully present you have to make it your first priority. Here’s a few ways I’ve been trying to implement being more present in my life, as well as be more focused and intentional in my life:
- Praying more and spending time with God.
- Compartmentalize my time
- Creating a schedule and planning more.
- Closing my laptop and putting my phone down.
- Taking moments to myself and clearing my mind.
- Staying off social media
- Listening to and seeking out encouraging people, literature, and influences.
- Looking for motivation in unlikely places.
I know I won’t be able to do every single one of these things every, with the exception of praying more and spending time with God, but I think they are great things to have on my agenda and work toward. Its the effort that counts right? Taking action and making something of it. Its the least I can do to get started, and hopefully to a better place mentally and emotionally.
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Do you ever feel not fully present? If so, how do you cope? – What are some of the ways you keep from getting stuck in a runt?