It seems like in the world we live in everyone wants their piece of the pie and not to share it. Its dog eat, dog eat. As positive and objective as I try to be, every now and again I’m reminded that people can be insecure, jealous, envious, and feel threatened. By nature, I’m not a jealous person, but do I every now and again experience some envy or feelings of insecurity, of course, I’m human. As a creative its hard sometimes, because in the worlds of Pinterest and Instagram, and even reality tv, everyone appears to have a perfect life. Well they don’t! The very people you admire, look up to, and may even be motivated and inspired by can feel and be as negative and insecure as you are. Its funny when you look at others and think “wow, they’re on it” or “man, they really have it together”. Odds are that they probably don’t. We tend to give people more credit than they deserve, especially when it comes down to confidence and integrity. Sometimes, however, people give themselves too much credit.
People don’t like competition, they’d rather be the sole “one” in whatever industry or service they provide. However, the world thrives off of competition. If there was no competition, prices would be sky high and the market would be extremely monopolized. Completely irrational right? Absolutely! Your competition should serve to make you better. Comparison should serve to make you better. When I see someone who I feel I can closely be compared to or even my work, I’m motivated. Its like it just makes me want I need to do better, be better. I experience this a lot with blogging. I come across a really amazing blog and I’m like “I like this, I really do…I need to step it up.”. My initial reaction is not “woe is me” or feeling threatened. There’s room for us all, and more so room for me to get better.
All that glitters isn’t gold. It sucks to find this out the hard way, but some times it happens. Its quite disappointing, but every thing happens for a reason. We give people too much energy, too much stock and the universe has a funny way of reminding us that they’re just not that great. That we can be as good as them, if not better. I mean this in relation to industry and personally. Be a better person than that person you’re comparing yourself to or competing with. While you’re spending your time looking into their lives, you could be bettering your own. Living more intentional and focusing on your growth. Let competition drive you, drive your growth, and your skills. Let it make you a better person, not an insecure or threatened person. Let both, competition and comparison, push you to the top of your game, so no one can touch you and keep going from there.
There’s nowhere to go from where you are at but up!
I hope you found these words encouraging, because they came from the heart. Its as raw and real as I can make it, because its what drives me. Its what makes me what to be a better me.